Two borderlines dating
I love him as a person and friend, but i think he may be too sensitve...i understand why he is the way he is.i dont know.i told him i think we should be friends i seriously believe that he thinks we will be together "together" someday and wont let it go, this puts pressure on me to like him and sometimes i feel suffocated, othertimes i feel like i desperately need him..i dnt want to hurt him but i need to do what is best for both of us....i dont want to lead him on but then again i dont want to see him get hurt. I just want to take a year off DEEP relationships and at this point only want friendship and to utilize my spare time working on myself and helping others. in fact, for quite a while we refused to date because of the potential complications..the intensity... I havent ever really been the overly sensitive guy, or the bad boy, but Ive been around long enough to know and see lots of things. Post edited by: tvz309, at: 07/28/2011 AM Faraday, I don't think it was mean.
When i spend all my time with him im sure that gives him the wrong impression. It's funny that a symptom of BPD is intense relationships. Also, dont be so naive as to think the BPD guy would "never leave you" either. Oh btw-Someone (a female family member) very close to me left a really sweet, caring guy for a real piece of sh*t recently. I'm trying to get her to understand the consequensences of what she thinks she does/doesnt want in a man.
A common and very confusing failure pattern of relationship instability is described in this article.
It may seem like an oversimplification, but all too commonly one person with a PD attracts someone with a different one, Kaslow has found in her 30-plus years of practice. "They seem to have a fatal attraction for each other in that their personality patterns are complementary and reciprocal--which is one reason why, if they get divorced, they are likely to be attracted over and over to someone similar to their former partner," Kaslow says. In it, Links maintains that a narcissist's PD severity and willingness to change can make or break a couple's attempts to fix problems.
Their study included only adults in the 55 to 64 age range.